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Modern Counseling Group therapists specialize in helping people heal from sexual compulsivity and work with both the addict in recovery, the betrayed partner or spouse, or the healing couple. Our therapists also work with anxious and depressed individuals, and people dealing with grief, complex trauma, and couples in need of support. You can read more below:
Sex Addiction, Sexual Compulsivity, Hyper-sexuality and Pornography Addiction
We have been providing addiction recovery support for over a decade. If you are a person who is struggling with sexual behaviors that are creating problems in your relationship with yourself or people you care about, we welcome your call or email. If you are ready to create a life that supports healthy sexuality, authenticity, honesty and respect, as a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), we specialize in working with clients struggling in this area. We provide a focused therapy process and specific plan that is research based, along with tools and materials to support each client as they progress and move toward their goals. Confidentiality is the cornerstone to our work, and we meet with clients in a safe and nonjudgmental space. We work with people who are ready to step into their courage as we support you each step of the way in creating a life that feels authentic and healthy, and free from shame, stress and deception. Reach out for support.
Spouses or Partners of Sex and Pornography Addicts and Betrayal Trauma
The pain and trauma that betrayed spouses or partners experience is profound. Finding out that the person you love and trusted the most in this world has betrayed you with their sexual choices, secrets, and lies can be devastating. Partners often share feelings of confusion, anger, fear, depression, anxiety, ambivalence, hopelessness, and sometimes even shame, especially if their significant other has a public persona. In our work with betrayed partners, we sensitively focus on helping the hurting client create boundaries, as well as structuring a focused treatment plan with tools and materials designed to support healing, reduce trauma, increase self-agency and empowerment, and support the client toward resiliency as you heal the parts that have been wounded. There is hope after betrayal, and we are here to help you if you are ready to heal. Reach out, you do not need to suffer alone.
In our work with couples, we address a myriad of issues that couples struggle with, primarily: various addictions including sex and porn addiction, affairs, betrayal issues, communication struggles, trust challenges, emotional intimacy, sexuality, boundaries, and maintaining connection. Our counseling focuses on solution-based objectives in helping couples find strategies that work for their unique relationship. We are highly objective couples therapists, and do not take sides. We believe that with support and tools, couples can negotiate a relationship that works for them, and we support the couples we work with to move from pain and hurt, to connection and satisfaction. Reach out for support.
Complex Trauma & PTSD
Clients sometimes ask what defines complex trauma. CT is best described as repeated traumatic, negative events that are usually first experienced in childhood. However, complex trauma can also be experienced at any age of adulthood. Examples of complex trauma might include ongoing early childhood physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, neglect in childhood, a loss of a loved one, abusive relationships, traumatic events such as rape, bullying, unexpected health issues or diagnosis, betrayal trauma, divorces, accidents, and natural disasters. Symptoms of complex trauma often include Intrusive thoughts, nightmares, sleep disorder, PTSD responses, an increase in various addictions in attempting to cope with the complex trauma, anger, mood regulation issues, fearfulness, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, self-doubt, chronic worry, and sometimes thoughts of suicide. Please see the following paragraph which further describes our approach to working with clients who are dealing with complex trauma and PTSD. Reach out.
When it comes to helping clients reduce and eliminate the impact of complex trauma, EMDR therapy is a gold-standard therapy. When clients ask what EMDR is, we share that EMDR is a brain therapy that helps the client access the trauma experience and reprocesses the experience safely in a focused way. Through EMDR, trauma symptoms are reduced so the person is not impacted by the emotional response while having relief from feelings of fear, anger, hurt, and terror. EMDR helps the client reprocess the trauma so their brain understands that the traumatic experience happened in the past and is currently not happening. This way the client is no longer living their life hijacked by fear and anxiety. Instead, their brain now understands the trauma is no longer happening in real-time. Clients share that EMDR is a life-changing experience, and often find relief within the first few sessions. For an entertaining illustration, please watch the brief clip on “What is EMDR?“. Reach out for support.
We work with clients whose depression is part of complex trauma or PTSD (see above). If you are a person who has been diagnosed with clinical depression, or you are suicidal, it is best that you seek out a therapist who specializes in working with chronically and clinically depressed people. If you are dealing with episodic depression as a result of a recent loss, due to grief, and/or due to addiction or betrayal, you are welcome to contact us. If after the first assessment session we believe that you would benefit from a higher level of care, or working with a therapist who specializes in clinical and chronic depression, we will be happy to provide you with a referral.
Anxiety can rob a person in so many ways, it impacts a person’s ability to feel at peace and secure in their life, relationships, and in their world. We often refer to anxiety as the thief of joy because it can sneak in and disrupt a person at any given moment. If you are struggling with anxiety, we would like to help you learn important tools and techniques that can help you reduce chronic worrying, increase peace of mind, and help you live a more relaxed, enjoyable, and connected life. There is no need to struggle alone, reach out.
Grief, Loss and Bereavement
Experiencing grief is part of the human condition, albeit one of the most difficult things we face as human beings. With EMDR work (see above), and other therapy techniques we help clients move through the understandable grief they are experiencing over the death of a loved one or a beloved pet. If you have been suffering, or you feel stuck in overwhelming sadness, or if your future feels lonely and without hope, please know that there is support to help you through this very difficult time. We are here to help as you honor your loved one while healing your heart so that you can continue to live and thrive. Reach out for support.
What is therapy like?
Therapy is a process where you are supported by a highly trained and compassionate therapist who works with you step-by-step in reaching your counseling goals. We confidentially and compassionately support each client and couple using researched and evidence-based approaches that include: EMDR Therapy, DBT/Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Gottman Couples Therapy, Couples Therapy, and gold standard models of sex and porn addiction with Certified Sex Addiction Therapists, as well as betrayal trauma therapy. We are dedicated to helping every unique individual and couple move from emotional pain, shame, betrayal and trauma toward healing, hope, connection and joy.
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Collaboratively develop a treatment plan and start you on your path towards meeting your goal.
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